Cut all ties to your ex to allow yourself to move on.
Getting over a relationship after a break-up is never easy, especially if you cared deeply for the other person. However, if you find yourself breaking up and getting back together with over and over again, you're only making the situation worse for the both of you. Clearly, the relationship is not going to work, so it's time to break it off for good -- no going back. The only way is to cut all ties with him, allowing time for each of you to heal and move on.
Instructions
1. Set boundaries after the breakup. Make it clear -- especially if you've broken up and gotten together in the past -- that the break is for good and that you need your space. Ask him not to contact you so you both can get through this emotional time. If he wants to remain friends, and you agree that could work, the friendship can wait until you've both been able to move on.
2. Delete his phone number from your auto-dial. This will keep you from being tempted to call just to "check in." You need to allow yourself to emotionally get over him. In fact, it's a good idea to change your phone number. Give your new number to your friends, but ask them not to share it with your ex if they are still in contact with him.
3. Don't linger over the breakup. It's time to throw away -- or at least put away -- all those pictures, cards, mementos and other items that remind you of the relationship. Stop listening to sad love songs and wondering what could have been. Don't rehash the situation with your friends. If they bring him up, change the subject, and ask them to understand that you don't want to discuss him anymore and are trying to move on.
4. Keep yourself busy so there's less time to think about him or getting back together. Take up a new sport, start a renovation project in your house, or take a cooking class. Spend time with your single friends and relish the freedom of not being accountable to anybody. Do whatever you need to do keep yourself from going back to a relationship that you know will not work.
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